The Reason

I’m not a perfect person

There’s many thing I wish I didn’t do

But I continue learning

I never meant to do those things to you

And so I have to say before I go

That I just want you to know

I’ve found a reason for me

To change who I used to be

A reason to start over new

And the reason is you

 

I’m sorry that I hurt you

It’s something I must live with everyday

And all the pain I put you through

I wish I could take it all away

And be the one who catches all your tears

That’s why I need you to hear

 

I’ve found a reason for me

To change who I used to be

A reason to start over new

And the reason is you

 

This is a beautiful song called THE REASON sung by an American band called Hoobastank back in 2004. They are called a one hit wonder because this song of theirs went on to become the No.2 song on the Billboard Hot 100 at the time after which they disappeared.

This is one of my most favourite songs of all time and I make it a point to put it in my pen drive whenever I make a new collection. Today as I was driving to work, I remembered that I had to write for the prompt given by Write Tribe. The prompt was – PUT YOUR IPOD ON SHUFFLE/TURN ON THE RADIO TO YOUR FAVOURITE STATION AND WRITE A POST USING THE SONG AS YOUR PROMPT. I switched on my music player and pressed the next button (because the song Tan Tana Tan was just coming to an end and there’s not much one can write about that song!) and the song that played was this one. I like this song for 2 reasons. The first reason being the lyrics are those words which we often want to say to the loved ones but end up not saying. It’s strange but often in life we tend to hurt our loved ones more than we hurt our enemies. Sometimes intentionally and at other times accidentally. Intentionally probably when they aren’t giving us the attention we crave for or think we deserve from them. Accidentally, when we are so comfortable with them that we think that no matter what we say or do, they wouldn’t mind it without realising that they to have a heart that can get hurt.  I’m a firm believer that once we hurt someone, no matter how much we apologise the relationship will never go back to normal. It’s like scratches or cracks on glass, they never go away. If someone hurts me, I can forgive but I can never forget. But if ever we wanted to apologise for hurting somebody, the lyrics of this song would probably do the trick.

 

The singer here is apologising for causing pain to his loved one even though he is leaving her or most probably she has asked him to leave.  He says he has found a reason to change for the better, and the reason is her. Whenever a relationship is over, it is very difficult to end it on good terms, be it marriage or just friendship. Blame games and hate is the general consensus. Have you ever heard anyone tell their partner at the end of a breakup that “You have changed me and made me a better person.” Never. But accepting your faults and correcting yourself is the first step towards building a relationship. Lets be real, nobody can take your bullshit forever. Someday they will break and you will be on your way out. This song makes you realise both. One is that you can’t keep hurting someone even if that person loves you with all their heart. And the second one is that at some point you have to change yourself IF AND ONLY IF it is going to make you a better person. Personal advice from me – Don’t change for someone who doesn’t deserve it. 

 

The second reason why I love this song is the video. For those of you who haven’t watched it, I’ve posted it below here. According to me it’s one of the best music videos out there. I won’t say anything more about it, just watch it and have your say.

 

Before I end this rather short post I would like to ask you a couple of questions.

1.  Have you changed yourself for better or worse for anyone?

2.  Is it really possible to FORGIVE AND FORGET 

 

 

I am taking part in The Write Tribe Problogger October 2017 Blogging Challenge.

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13 Comments

  1. mahekg

    The lyrics truly are beautiful and deep

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  2. bumpymiracle

    Yes, I have changed myself.. Not once, many a times.. Humans do tend to adapt to surroundings and people both..

    And forgive.. Yes.. Forget.. no! Things always come back in the form of thoughts or dreams or memories..

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  3. pragunify

    Beautiful expression. It is difficult to forgive and forget, but that is what we need to learn and change for better.

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  4. Sunita Saldhana

    I am always changing! Change is my middle name. And no it is not possible to forget , specially if you have been hurt really badly by someone you love. Forgive, maybe but not forget.

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  5. vinodinii

    Oh this my favorite number too! I have always had THE REASON on my playlist since 2007 and I don’t think I will ever find anything that can replace it. I have too many beautiful memories attached with this track. Thanks for sharing the video!

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  6. Akshata Ram

    I need to watch the video but I loved thr wordings and your synopsis. I believe that someone must accept me as I am with my faults and follies for that’s what true love or friendship is all about. I do make an earnest attempt to be a better version of myself but I can’t and don’t want to alter my very being. Also a true Leo I am and can’t forgive or forget easily

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    1. Ryan Fernandes (Post author)

      But sometimes we do change for the people we love and don’t even realise it. Its only after a while when you sit and analyse your life it hits you. Thank you Akshata 🙂

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  7. Modern Gypsy

    This is one of my favourite songs too! I’ve never analysed it so deeply, but I do agree with everything you said here.
    As for forgiving and forgetting – no, I don’t think I can. I can forgive, but I don’t forget!

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    1. Ryan Fernandes (Post author)

      Same holds true for me! I find it impossible to forget. Thank you Shinjini 🙂

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  8. Holly Jahangiri

    I’ve changed for me.

    And it’s possible to forgive. It’s possible to forget. Sometimes, though, it’s an OR, not an AND.

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    1. Ryan Fernandes (Post author)

      For me its never an AND 🙂 Thank you Holly 🙂

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  9. Meha Sharma

    Beautiful song Ryan and a wonderful video. Thank you for sharing this one. Yes, I think we do change inadvertently , sometimes for the people around us or for ourselves. I think one evolves and life is a great teacher. Great post.

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    1. Ryan Fernandes (Post author)

      Thank you Meha 🙂 Yes most often we change and don’t even realise it!

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